Narcissistic traits (exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration, a lack of empathy, seeking abusive power over others) run counter to desirable personality in work traits (e.g. inclusivity, openness, sharing) but narcissists frequently enjoy promotion.
A monumental weakness in the narcissist is the failure to look internally and flesh out what needs to be worked on. Then, of course, the next step is to spend time improving. The narcissist sabotages any possibility of looking deep within.
*Exhibiting signs of narcissistic behaviors, such as a grandiose sense of self-importance, fantasized talent or expertise, or arrogance. *Focusing on self-image and ensuring that others perform in a way that elevates one’s own public image or reputation.
Narcissists typically perform well at job interviews; they receive more favorable hiring ratings from interviewers than individuals who are not narcissists. Even more experienced and trained raters evaluate narcissists more favorably.
Unfortunately, counseling from HR or supervisors is unlikely to help in most cases. Typically, the employee’s intransigent and inflexible attitude will eventually lead to termination of employment.
Narcissists are frightened, fragile people.
Rejection, humiliation, and even the tiniest of defeats can shake them to their core. This leaves narcissists wholly focused on their image.
Indifference and invisibility. Narcissists thrive on attention– they need to be the focal point of your life. The best way to make a narcissist miserable is by taking away these things from them. That’s why even negative attention rarely fazes them.
Narcissists lives are about winning, generally at others expense. Many narcissists pursue a win-at-all-costs, anything-goes approach. The casualties: Honesty, empathy and reciprocity. Narcissists distort the truth through disinformation, oversimplifying, ridiculing and sowing doubt.
Workplace narcissists will do anything they can to undermine your performance – whether it’s hurling covert or overt insults your way, treating you to backhanded “compliments” and cruel jokes, spreading rumors about you, excluding you from conversations or work-related events and/or degrading your work ethic, …
As one told the Financial Times: “Narcissists gravitate towards professions where they can control people and elicit adulation. They are more likely to work in politics, finance, or medicine than in shoemaking.”
Ignoring the narcissist is the most effective way to sever ties from the person, although it is not easy to do. The narcissist will act out when they realize their host is rejecting them and will go to great extremes to reel the victim back in.
When a narcissist’s position has been exposed as false, arbitrary, or untenable, he will suddenly become evasive, articulate half-truths, lie, flat-out contradict themselves and freely rewrite history (making things up as they go along). This is why at such times they don’t seem like adults so much as 6-year-olds.
Narcissists consider few people their equals, so they tend to be poor team players. It’s often impossible to avoid teamwork in the workplace. So, if you do require them to work as part of a team, try to get them together with people you know they respect, admire or consider high status.
Basically, the silent treatment is a passive-aggressive behavior by which an abuser communicates some sort of negative message to the intended victim that only the perpetrator and the victim recognize through nonverbal communication.
When a narcissist knows you are onto them, they know it would be hard to trick you anymore. Hence, when a narcissist loses power, what they do is create a trauma bond. … If you are not careful in exposing a narcissist, you will end up bonding in an abusive way that will prevent you from fighting back.
The angry outburst of a narcissist is like a two-year-old temper tantrum. It appears out of nowhere, creates an unnecessary scene, and shocks others into inaction. It is the ultimate in selfish behavior as everything immediately becomes about them and what they want.
Narcissistic people return because they’re suffering from malnutrition. What do I mean by nutrition? Attention, affection, sex, money… Perhaps they were able to fill the hole you left behind with new relationships, new friends and places for a while.
Gaslighters/narcissists are extremely sensitive to rejection. Any perceived slight can throw them into a tailspin. Many times, gaslighters/narcissists will be out for revenge. One of the most common ways gaslighters/narcissists attack those who reject them is by subjecting them to public humiliation.
Another strategy used by the narcissist to “get back” is to start blaming the other partner for incidentals but over and over again. They might say, “You’re holding me back,” for example, when they seek constant activity with no downtime.
People with narcissistic personality disorder may engage in a variety of games or manipulation tactics. This is so they fulfill their need to be or appear superior and powerful.
Narcissists mess with people’s heads, psychologist Perpetua Neo explained to INSIDER. They like to have all the attention on them, which is why they cut their victims off from their friends and family. Often, they will flip between being a victim, being abusive, and being the hero.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist is hard work. Even if things appear to be going well, there’s no telling what’s going to set off their narcissistic rage. They may not always mean to hurt their partners, but more often than not, they do.
Texting makes it so easy for a narcissist to hide in plain sight. It’s impersonal, quick, and takes little to no effort. It’s a perfect medium for playing mind games or pretending to be someone else.
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